I may have to check out the book written by Wayne Bryan, father of the professional twin tennis doubles team. Here is what the New York Times Magazine article of Aug 30, 2009 has to say about it:
which stresses, among other things, the importance for a parent of not stealing a child’s thunder. It reads as a manifesto for a sensitive and low-pressure form of hothousing. Wayne spells out very specifically how a parent should approach his child after a match. “First, let your child come to you . . . ,” he writes. “Remember, this is her gig, not yours. You say you want to share her glory? No! Let her friends go up to her and share her moment.” And win or lose, the script is the same: First question: Do you want water or Gatorade? Second question: Where do you want to get something to eat? Third question, if the child is 16 or older: Do you want to drive or should I? “It’s really that simple,” he writes. “If the child wants to talk about the match, you listen. But don’t critique. . . . Your role is to minimize pressure, not create it.”
I have to constantly remind myself to not push my kids in sports further than they want to go. Cassidy has creative talents but David and Kristen have athletic talents that they are currently unmotivated to pursue and nurture. Maybe something will click and one day they will actually ask ME to help them rather than the other way around.